Women share stories of going through labour alone as petition calls for change to birth partner restrictions

A petition is calling for a change to birth partner restrictions. (Image posed by model, Getty Images)
A petition is calling for a change to birth partner restrictions. (Image posed by model, Getty Images)

Women have been sharing their “traumatic” experiences of being in labour without their partner by their side, after a petition was launched calling for a change to social distancing rules on maternity wards.

The measures, designed to help reduce the spread of coronavirus, mean many hospitals in England are only allowing birthing partners to be present when the expectant mother is in “established labour” (4cm or more dilated).

The restrictions also mean many birth partners are not permitted to attend antenatal scans and appointments and are asked to leave the hospital shortly after the baby is born.

The petition, launched by Holly Avis, 35, a homemaker from Rushden, is calling for the restrictions to change to allow a chosen birth partner to be in attendance from the very start of labour until the new mum is allowed to go home, and for the birth partner to also be allowed to attend scans and appointments.

Avis was prompted to start the petition after spotting a photo shared on social media showing her local Primark reopening with a queue of a couple of hundred people.

“At first I just thought ‘I’m glad I’m not queuing in that’, then it dawned on me, I could go shopping with my partner and children with zero PPE (not that I would want to) but that same partner I live with wasn’t allowed in for much at all of the birth of his child, even if he tested negative for COVID-19 and was wearing PPE,” she told Yahoo UK.

“I immediately felt a huge injustice and sadness and knew something had to be done.”

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Holly Avis started the petition after restrictions seriously impacted her own pregnancy an birth. (Image supplied Holly Avis)
Holly Avis started the petition after restrictions seriously impacted her own pregnancy an birth. (Image supplied Holly Avis)

Avis argues the current measures risk partners missing the birth of their babies, as labour can be unpredictable.

Additionally, should a woman experience complications, Avis says they risk the prospect of facing traumatic moments alone, without the support of a birth partner.

On the petition page, Avis goes on to say it seems unfair that social distancing measures have been relaxed in other settings, such as in pubs and restaurants, but not in maternity units.

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Avis says not being able to have her partner with her for various stages of pregnancy really affected her.

“My partner only made it to my very first scan and from then on he missed all further scans and appointments,” she said.

“In the end the anxiety I was facing at the thought of birthing even partially alone made me change my birth plan entirely from a planned Caesarean section to a home birth.”

Many women are still attending scans and appointments alone due to coronavirus restrictions. (Image posed by model, Getty Images)
Many women are still attending scans and appointments alone due to coronavirus restrictions. (Image posed by model, Getty Images)

Since launching the petition, Avis has received hundreds of messages from mothers and their partners with heartbreaking stories about how the measures have impacted them.

“All of them are anxious not to experience appointments, scans and labour alone but they’ve also shared real experiences where partners are genuinely missing births, either due to mis-assessing or labour progressing faster than predicted,” she said.

“Many cases where babies have actually passed away and the mother is alone for that news in her scan or even a stillbirth.

“The most heartbreaking story came to me last night from a mother whose baby had sadly died, and she was called into hospital to be induced to birth the baby, and her partner was still not allowed with her.

“The induction was three days in length and she had to go through all of that alone, to leave hospital at the end without a baby.”

Avis says she has been blown away by the response to the petition.

“Initially I thought I might gather a hundred signatures at best,” she said.

But the petition now has more than 300,000 signatures after being promoted by the #ButNotMaternity campaign, set up by Birthbliss Academy, which aims to support the birthing rights of all women and pregnant people.

Having teamed up with Avis, they have written an open letter to Professor Whitty, Matt Hancock and NHS England to explain their concerns about the current restrictions on partners attending scans and appointments.

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The petition is being widely shared on social media where women are also sharing their own stories of how they have been impacted by the restrictions.

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Avis hopes that encouraging women to share their stories on social media, will help persuade authorities to change the guidance.

“It simply must be recognised that birth partners are NOT the same as visitors and therefore should not be treated as so,” Avis added.

“With PPE and testing readily available there’s no reason why partners can not be with mothers now and we also need to think about the detrimental effect this is having on mental health, which is just as important to protect as any other illness or condition.”

The Royal College of Midwives (RCM) and the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists have described the delay by NHS England in publishing guidance on partners attending births, scans and other ante- and postnatal appointments as “unacceptable”.

“Not only is this causing distress to pregnant women and their families, it is also impacting on our members, some of whom have faced abuse from visitors unable to attend appointments,” said RCM CEO Gill Walton.

“We recognise that there is the need to vary local rules depending on circumstances, such as staffing levels and locally-imposed restrictions due to rising levels of COVID, but we urge NHS England to stop the delay and publish the guidance for all concerned.”

A spokesperson for the NHS told Yahoo UK: “The safety of our patients and their families is always the absolute priority, which is why guidance on safely attending maternity appointments was developed at the start of the pandemic with the Royal Colleges of Midwives and Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.

“Now as we have moved past the initial peak, the NHS is continuing to work with frontline professionals and patient groups to open up services safely, and allow partners to go to antenatal clinics, in addition to being present for labour, which partners have been able to do throughout the pandemic.”

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